Men’s Partner Assault Response (PAR) program supports men in exploring, understanding, and changing the underlying beliefs and attitudes that lead to violence in relationships.
Goals & Objectives:
- Address the underlying beliefs and perspectives that lead to violence in relationships
- Break the patterns of harm or violence in relationships
Is This Program for Me?
- You are male and 18 years of age or older; and
- You have been charged related to violence or harm in your relationship.
Referrals may be in the form of a peace bond, bail variation, early intervention agreement, probation order, or through a probation officer; or
- You have recognized that you have caused harm or been violent in a relationship but have not been charged; or
- You are interested in breaking the patterns of harm and violence in relationships.
What We Offer:
- A 12-session program that works to address the underlying beliefs and perspectives that lead to violence in relationships.
- Sessions are 2 hours long and are cofacilitated by male and female facilitators.
- Partner contact support to the current or former victims of the men enrolled.
How Do I Get Connected?
Referrals can be completed by probation officers or the Crown Attorney. Individuals can also self-refer if they do not have charges before the court.
All program registration can be completed by calling the Men’s Program office at 519-372-2720 or by emailing Jon at email@example.com.
Intakes are done over the phone, must be scheduled in advance, and last between 30 and 60 minutes.
Is There a Cost for This Program?
Yes. The fees vary on a sliding scale from $2 to $80 per session. Participants are responsible for paying each week, including sessions they miss.
Is There a Waitlist for This Program?
The men’s PAR program has a continuous intake. Waitlists change frequently and depend on referral numbers. Contact the program for up-to-date information.
Locations and Times:
- Mondays in Hanover from 6:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. (425 10th Street, Hanover, Ontario)
- Tuesdays or Thursdays in Owen Sound from 6:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. (1026 2nd Ave. East, Owen Sound, Ontario)
Individual sessions are available in extenuating circumstances. Groups do not run on statutory holidays.
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Weekly reflections are part of the program. You can find weekly homework / reflections below organized by the themes of the sessions.
- Violence & Non-Violence
- Respect & Emotional Abuse
- Non-threatening Behaviour & Intimidation
- Negotiation and Fairness & Coercion and Threats
- Trust and Support & Isolation
- Honesty, Responsibility, and Accountability & Minimization, Denial, and Blame
- Partnership and Responsible Parenting & Male Privilege
- Sexual Respect & Sexual Abuse